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Online Dating Sites: A Path To True Love?

Be very choosy on free dating sites. Do you want to hook up with skinflints? Crooks and weirdoes are common too. Some people want to get married to get a passport. Some want money for airfare or their sick mother; these are cons. Some women are looking for 'sugar daddies'; a man to leech off of. Some are looking for someone who'll put up with their impossible behaviour; the very opposite of a romantic relationship, where both people look for ways to make the other person happier. Conversely, if someone has had to pony up some money to become a member of a dating site it means they're a bit more earnest and they've got a credit or debit card; a little more comforting, but you can still easily land a nutjob.

Men: You have to give the idea that you are positive, well-off, powerful, (and tender in private with her). If you don't have these characteristics, act like you have. Women need to perceive potential, and the origin of the word 'potential' is the Latin 'potentia', meaning power.

Team up with a pal to draw near women who are alone. This method works most smoothly at nightclubs, bar-rooms, beaches, etc. Why does this give you an advantage? Because she's less likely to reject two men together than one man coming near her alone. Why? Because you look more sociable; you've got your pal with you and you don't seem like a 'lone wolf' or oddball. You've got a bit of psychological support as well. Then it's up to you and your buddy which one is going to woo her.

Whilst you first make eye contact, smile. If she smiles back, you're in. Then go up to her, and say hello. After that, take your cue from her. She likes you, so you don't have to gabble. You could say the most hackneyed things; it's your appearance, and the sound of your voice, that're doing most of the work. If you're nervous, just tell yourself: "plenty more fish in the sea if I mess this up". Which is true!

Most crucial: You must not embarrass your date publicly. Women hate to be the focus of attention for the wrong reasons. If you are acting like a little boy or a brute you're using up your credit every second that passes by.

How will you know if a girl is interested in you? She gives you a second glance. Try smiling. If she returns your smile, you're in! It's a myth that men gain women by chasing after them. Women assess men, then give the big gits 'the come on'. You just need the self-assurance to go over and say hello. If you think of a witty remark, make one. If you can't, just smile. Say hello. Ask a pertinent question. Then listen to what she has to say. Which, if she likes you, will be a lot.

Social skills: A man should ideally be gregarious, with an inner circle of amusing acquaintances. He should be able to hold knowledgeable discussions on a wide assortment of subjects. A man should be observant. He should notice when a woman has modified her appearance. He should notice when she is unhappy. When necessary he should not stay silent, but offer compliments or understanding. He should, however, also know that no man ever won a fair lady by being meek and mild. You're not required to put up with narcissistic behaviour. Don't take women's 'crises' too seriously. They certainly don't. One day disaster, the next day 'tout fas bien'. A strong man holds it all in. A strong woman (or a nutcase!) explodes. Regularly.

A worthwhile area of research is the magazine shelf in your local supermarket. Men should look at womens' magazines, and vice-versa. Men will notice that women fantasize about men who are: Pretty-boys, slim, brawny (like a swimmer, not a weight-lifter), fashionably dressed, patrician, tight-fitting trousers, thoughtful, wealthy, powerful, confident, popular, makes her laugh, takes charge, can discuss his feelings now and again, yet isn't a wet dishcloth.

In any correspondence (email or paper or discussion forums or chat rooms), obey the following rules: Be polite and conventional to begin with. Do not presume familiarity with a total stranger. Do not use sexy words or swear-words or blather on about violent or cruel acts. Women hate this sort of thing, and it makes them scared; "uh-oh, another nutcase!" Don't brag. Play up your best qualities and your status in the flow of the correspondence, but don't brag. Heed what she has to say, and talk about HER and her concerns. Don't badger her. If she doesn't want to talk, or doesn't respond, don't bother her. Silence is an answer in itself. She could be busy, she could have gotten mail from other guys first, or she just ain't interested. Again, you don't want to be seen as a pest-weirdo-stalker. For your own sake, you should try to get a picture of her as soon as is polite. A picture speaks a thousand words, and you may save yourself a lot of work. Even then, photographs could be old or manipulated or photoshopped, so ask for snapshots from her recent vacation, or similar.

Some women hanker for a man who is 'macho', overbearing, even a little bit cruel. Accent on the little bit. You keep her attention by seeming to be complex and capricious. You may act authoritarian, dominating, even a little sadistic. Check her reactions closely when you do. If she takes delight in submitting to you, a glint in her eye, a suddenly more positive response to you; you might be dealing with a woman who unfortunately has a masochistic need to be mistreated and disciplined. If such conduct comes easily to you, it could be very effective with such a woman. One caveat; masochists like their pain on THEIR terms in the end. You'll need to take your cue from her, not just shove her about indiscriminately. Moderation is key here.

A terrible habit: smoking. If you smoke, you're depriving yourself of the companionship of many more women. I know the weed is deucedly hard to kick. The brain craves it. But many women won't go out with you if you smoke. Apart from the outcome on your health, it causes your clothes and hair to smell terribly, and your mouth the savour of an ashtray. Give the filthy habit up, and spend the cash you save on turning yourself out smartly.

A posh car is a huge plus in your search for l'amour. Second-hand sports or classic autos can cost just as much as a new 'sensible' motorcar, and are more fun. Screw the petrol consumption and the insurance! Women say they dislike big muscles in men and their big cars. What they really mean is they dislike men who are fixated on or who are little more than their big muscles or their big cars. If you have both, and could project sensitivity and authority, you're three-quarters' way home. Failing this, get an automobile with character like a Morris Minor or a VW Beetle. What you're drawing a bead on is the kind of motorcar a lady would like to be be seen in. If it's fashion models you want, you need a flash automobile. If it's arty-crafty types, get a 'character' car. It depends on your social milieu, and your own character i. e. a student in a liberal arts faculty would look odd with a BMW, but thinking about it I think he'd be quite popular! Even the fact that you have any variety of car at all will be a bonus; ladies like to be chauffeured, and it opens up many more romantic possibilities. Just keep in mind it's only a prop in your 'act'.

Grooming: A man should be hygeinic, fresh smelling, have well-groomed hands and feet, clean socks, underwear and ironed clothes and a face that is clean shaven or a well kept beard.

Find a committed Casanova in your social circle, and examine his approach. Don't ask him questions. He might be disconcerted or he might not be aware of why he's so successful. But try to go on "woman-hunting expeditions" with him; any social affair where there are eligible women and he's strutting his stuff. Watch, make mental notes, and learn.

You'll have much more confidence if you've got some cash in the bank, an apartment and an car of your own; these should be a priority. You ought to also dress suitably. Dressing well means your appearance oozes power: you're in control of your destiny. Women like to be taken care of; project that you can do that, and you're half-way home. Your personal circumstances change how you behave: a man who is in reality prosperous will project that unconsciously and have more success with women.

Paid internet dating sites are a better bet than free ones. Better yet is a specialist one. You reckon you're open to all offers. In fact, in the back of your brain, you have a very specific set of criteria. Bring them to the fore. Do you like slim or well-rounded, tall or short, blonde or brunette, college-educated or not, extraverted or introvert? It's wise also to go for people who are of the same religion as you. You might think it's not important now, but when her relatives start getting involved in your kid's upbringing, it could matter a very great deal.

Race, religious belief and nationality are significant. Carefree twenty-somethings think they aren't. Married thirty-somethings find they are, to their sorrow. When you marry someone, you join two families. Someplace down the line, race, religion or nationality will become very significant. Of these three, I think religion is the most important; it affects fundamental beliefs about the nature of the universe and your place in it. In Catholicism, for example, the Catholic in a mixed marriage has to give an undertaking to raise any offspring as Catholics. If you don't cover that scenario before marrying, you have set the timer on a bomb which may harm or break-up your marriage. A non-religious Muslim might re-discover his faith in his 40's; this might be a big problem for his non-Muslim wife. If your in-laws are of a different religion and you need their help or they start interfering in your marriage. . . forget Hollywood; it produces lies and fantasy. You don't dwell in an urban, disconnected bubble when you get married, unlike young singletons who 'shack up' together. This is why Catholics have a six-month lead-in period to marriage; if their priest is a traditionalist and strict, they'll be asked some uncomfortable questions before they can walk down the aisle. And a good thing too! The world doesn't need any more marriage break-ups and fatherless children, and the misery such things cause.

Study your reactions to women objectively. You'll discover that a favorite type emerges: slim or rounded, brunette or fair, extrovert or introverted. There's a pop or movie star that you can't help gawking at while she's on the T.V. There's a type that causes your head to swivel when you're ambling down the street. That's the type you should go for; the one that stimulates an automatic, favourable response. You'll find it easier to talk to this type of girl. If you have found your onely love she'll feel the same about you. You have genes that'll help her make a bonnier baby; she does the same for you.

Romance: Champagne, moonlight, soothing words eloquently spoken, and flowers are exciting to most women. Those men who try to get along with women, and speak easily about their interests, are more successful with women, than less thoughtful chaps.

Women want you to like and look up to and cherish them. Casanova was successful with women not because he was comely or ebullient (he was rather ordinary in looks), but because he really appreciated them. The archetypical latin lover is very solicitous and complimentary to his quarry, and treats her like a princess, a donna. He says she is the most beautiful woman in the world, and means it. Oh, she laughs at this, but see how she glows too. Most men treat women like an alien specie, or objects to be acquired, as s-x toys, or as crabby illogical nuisances. A man that accepts a woman exactly as she is, with honest-to-goodness admiration, can have any woman he wants.

Conspicuous consumption indicates that you are not mean with your cash. Prove this by spending some on her, or giving her some! Don't be a sap, however; if the chemistry ain't there, on BOTH sides, move on. You can't badger or buy a woman into feeling love for you, 'though they may be reluctant to turn down a 'sugar daddy' totally. When true love strikes, you'll both know it; accept no substitute!

Touching and smiling: A smile shows that you are well-disposed towards somebody. Make certain you stand the correct distance away. Near, but not 'in her face'. You are concentrating on her, and her only; with your small jests and cordial concern in what she is saying, you draw her closer. Nod, smile, chuckle, tantalise her. Touch her arm while talking to her. A slightly naughty comment might be appropriate, to test how far you could go. You need to dispel the idea that you might be 'just being pally'.

Find someone who lives or works near you. A 20-mile radius is about the limit; 5-to-10 would be better. If you can't see each other easily you don't have a relationship; it's more difficult to go to a pub or a cafe or just go for a walk together spontaneously. Long-distance courtships only work for already-married people, for a short time; even then, soldiers still get divorced or the missus commits adultery or he does.

Don't over-think it. We are attracted to a particular type, with whom we may make a better baby; more vigorous, fitter, smarter, better adapted to its environment. Other types just don't resonate with us, 'though we can acknowledge in our minds they are attractive. It's a heart thing, a guts thing, and parts lower down. The mind merely gives its assent to a decision already made.

I hope these few handy tips will help you in finding love via online dating.

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